It's been almost five years since Josh and I had our first date. In some ways it feels like we just met yesterday, and in other ways it seems like we've been together for a lifetime. Anyone who knows us remotely well, knows what a rough ride it has been for us at times. They know how insanely right we are for each other and how, at the same time, how we couldn't be more wrong for each other. With this big milestone (five years) coming up, I've been thinking lots about what it is that makes him "the one". How do I know?!?
There are so many things about Josh and I that make us such a wrong fit. We are both needy, attention hungry, and selfish in relationships. We both are huge flirts (which has made being faithful for five years interesting, to say the least). We like different movies, music, and well... most other things. We are both childishly stubborn. We like to take our anger on the world out on each other. We can both be viciously mean. And we both verge on slightly crazy. A match made in heaven, right?!?
Oddly enough, all those things that make us so wrong also make us so right. Perhaps it's our understanding for the other one's character flaws that makes it work. Perhaps it's the fact that in five years we've never had a boring day together. Or it could truly be that the joke between ourselves is actually true, both of us are just too stubborn to leave! Whatever the case may be, here we are... almost five years later, and there isn't a doubt in my mind that Josh is my perfect match. He's my soul mate... my best friend. He is the person I will spend the rest of my life completely and utterly devoted to with every inch of my being.
So how do I know he's the one?!? Throughout our time together things have happened where I stop and think, "This is why I love him." "This is why I'm going to spend the rest of my life with him." Moments when he is making me laugh with another stupid joke that I will undoubtedly roll my eyes at (not all of those moments - some jokes have the opposite effect). Or times when I catch glimpses of the world he and Lexie share alone... a place where only a father and daughter can meet and join hearts. When I hear him praising and worshiping in church, my heart melts and I know "he's the one". Or when I was pregnant with Hadlie and he would wrap his arms around me and lay his hands on my stomach in a way so gentle and reassuring, as if he was holding the whole world in his hands.
Josh lets me think I'm right even when I'm not. He can read me so well that he knows what type of mood I'm going to be in before I even speak. He never forgets to kiss me goodbye when he leaves for work. He thinks hugs fix everything. He is an excellent father. He is my protector. He loves the Lord. He thinks I'm smart and beautiful (see above where I mentioned we are both a little crazy.) After five years, I still find myself daydreaming about his touch... his kiss. And the way he looks at me, I can see in his eyes that I'm the one for him without even asking.
So maybe it is the list of things that he does "right". Maybe it's not. Maybe it's just a feeling I have deep in my soul that lets me know we are in this for the long haul. Whatever it is, I know. And I couldn't feel more blessed than to be spending the rest of my life with my best friend and love of my life.
So how did you know yours was the one?!?
